Today my boys had 5 baths...which really is only bad because we have a well...during the third bath CO asked for me to put the little tv in the bathroom so they could watch a movie while they were in the tub... :) (I didn't)
They have some kind of stomach bug. CO is worse that J. For CO it is hard because he struggles to take it easy on his stomach and only eat and drink small amounts. He is very impulsive normally. If I put out a some flattened gingerale, he has a hard time not gulping rather than taking sips every once in a while. He has asked numerous times to go to the park or for a bike ride. He feels yucky and spent a lot of the morning curled up on the couch in a blanket complaining of the cold.
He is happiest in the tub. It probably soothes his aching stomach muscles. He also doesn't get taking it easy and sticking close to home even though he is in the bathroom multiple times in an hour. When one or the other hasn't made it to the bathroom on time, I've run the bath for the one and the other joins in.
So, today my boys have had 5 baths...so far :)
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on another note, I took J to the cas office to have a 'visit' with his birthmom, JJ. She didn't know who I was (she figured I was a driver when we arrived) until I was walking out the door with him to come home and he was saying 'hi mommy' and hugging me. So I confirmed when she asked me if he was staying with me. I didn't stay to chit chat. I don't really know what to say to her. Her son has been in care the majority of his life (since 8 months) and she hasn't fought or really even tried to get him back. She was crying on the curb of the parking lot when we left (I think she was waiting for her ride). And my first thought was 'why are you crying? you could have had him back long ago if you had just tried!'. But I guess it would be hard having your son call someone else 'mom'. It is interesting that he calls her mom to her face but when he talks about her he calls her her given name. She isn't ready to be a mom or doesn't want to be a mom. I am not sure which as I have never actually asked her. For her, the perfect solution is for her parents to raise him for her. Which kinda looks like how it probably will end up at this point. Unless they screw up majorly or they change their mind. Which I doubt they will change their mind as they are SO into winning against the cas to get him back. I am not sure they are thinking about the future. About if they are 'up' to raising him long-term. And unfortunately just because they feed him crap to eat, plunk him in front of a tv for hours and don't make him have a nap isn't a valid reason for them to not raise him.
I am not sure any of them are able to look at it from J's perspective. That he has lived in our family for over a year, has a brother and knows no other life. That taking this life away from him would be confusing and hard on him...
so feel free to pray for it all.
for God's will in this whole situation
and I am going to try to be polite and make a little small talk with her next month...I need to have more empathy for her...because I really don't know her side of it all...or why she has made the decisions that she has.
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