Wednesday, October 2, 2013

September in photos...part 1

September was filled with lots of moments for making memories...

my aunt's sunflowers

three kids ready for camping at the beach

swimming in the bay

view from the trailer

digging with cousins

this boy could live at the beach forever...

sunset

cousin love

old maid

this boy is happy as long as he has a truck to play with

my three

the view of the site from the beach
 
 
we went to a local fair




 
our butterfly hatched
 
my uncle has the BEST rope swing

we celebrated a birthday

we spent lots of times at the park



we spent lots of time with cousins at the beach



we played in our borrowed boat

Friday, September 20, 2013

focusing on the light when under attack...

My summer ended SUPERB. It was a GREAT trip. The kids had a blast. There was lots of great family time to be had and 'firsts' for some of the kids.
I arrived home Friday afternoon. House smelled a bit. But I figured that it was just from being shut up for two weeks. We opened the house up and then scrambled to figure out food, etc. When coming home my bank accounts were running very low because I screwed up my EI application (a whole different story for another day).
Saturday morning I opened the chest freezer to grab blueberries for the oatmeal. Source of the smell found. Chest freezer was FULL of rotten food (unplugged). I shut the door, and closed the door to the laundry room and did what anyone in my shoes (without a husband) would do....I called my Mommy!!! She swooped in and helped me get the three garbage bags worth of toxic waste out of the freezer, clean the freezer, empty out the trailer, unload the toxic waste into a dumpster behind the local gas station (Friday is garbage day here). She even watched the kids during 'quiet' time so I could run to the local grocery store to grab a couple of staples. At one point the laundry sink overflowed so there was that mess too. The boys took off to a neighbour's house in the morning while we were dealing with the toxic mess so that was a HUGE blessing!
Sunday after church was spent trying to find my house, unpack the pile in my dining room from the trailer, find my yard, clip the chicken's wings, and clean the house. Sunday night as I was climbing into bed I realized that I forgot to pick up CO's birthday present that was in my parent's basement....sigh. I got the kitchen quickly decorated for him.
Monday morning was busy. Birthday waffles, T's first day of school. CO had no school since it was his birthday and all (I don't go to work on my birthday), and I tackled the mountain of laundry since the laundry room was not unstinked enough to be in there previously without wanting to vomit.
We headed to town to pick up the cake (the first year I haven't made CO's cake since he came to me but he wanted an ice cream cake) at noon for birthday lunch (my mom joined us). Home for quiet time and then after picking up T from school we headed to my parent's for birthday dinner.
Tuesday was my Bible Study group. Exactly what my heart was needing....I got a visitor to the door just before we left which left me with a terrible sinking feeling in my heart. CO was nervous about going to Bible Study as he is now old enough to attend the homeschool class...but in the end...WONDERFUL! he participated and had such a blast. B also went into the nursery without causing a big fuss.
Wednesday...farmers market and canning with my mom and my failed attempt to apologize for the situation that was brought to my attention Tuesday morning. We got over 20 jars of diced tomatoes done.
The week seemed to be one thing after another. Things falling and breaking, nasty neighbours, the boys fighting, things stopping working, my bed getting peed in during quiet time, etc. BUT I choose to focus on the good. moments with the kids, the fact that even though my bank account is in a deficit and I lost a lot of food, that the cupboards were stocked and we had a roof over our head. I am blessed. Abundantly. I kept thinking my week was full of moments that I was leaning on God...trusting in him and filling the house with worship music.
B is officially a toilet user. She is doing very well. When toilet training CO and J I had them both trained with their BMs first as they were regular and I could predict when they needed to go. B...not so much. So I find that I am cleaning up messes...but hopefully she will catch onto putting it in the toilet rather than not...
I am looking forward to being done with daytime diapers.

The kids are happy to be home. They have been completely enjoying the backyard again as well as playing with toys that they have not played with during the nice weather. CO begged me to bring out some toys that have been in storage since winter for his birthday. We are easing into the homeschooling thing. The days are still nice and are calling us outside to enjoy it.

CO spent a big part of today with B 'painting' my house and fence. They have a bucket that they fill with water and use paintbrushes. I love that my kids do this kind of creative play and that they do it for hours without needing technology or me to come up with ways to entertain them. T participates but doesn't stick with it as long. He is more of a car man. He will play in the backyard for about 20 minutes but then he is back inside playing with his cars. He has come very far in the few months since coming that I am sure he will soon expand his horizons when it comes to play. The two boys have gone from fighting 95% of the day to only about 5% which is SO nice. They still have their moments.

Being home have increased T's food obsessions. I need to deal with it differently and be more patient. I get too easily annoyed at being asked multiple times in a short period of time about food. I can't be in the kitchen without him hovering and asking for food.

My MIL has been a blessing. We've had a few good long chats and they always make my heart feel better and lift my spirits...she is a lovely woman with a big heart!

We have switched AWANA groups. The club we were attending wasn't actually following the program which was frustrating for me as I really wanted my kids to partake in the program as it is a really good one. The church actually switched to a different program this year. I am SO happy we switched clubs and didn't stay at the old location with the new program. The boys both came home VERY excited about the program. And CO participated...he was nervous but he joined in which is BIG for him.
Next week we will be more busy as we will also be starting into Beavers and swimming lessons. I would like to get T into something musical as I think there is always a song running through his head. He is constantly singing and drumming. But it will have to be a really good fit as I am not sure I want to have us overloaded with lessons and running around.

Thursday, August 29, 2013

almost the end of summer...

Where has the summer gone??
I had LOTS more adventures that I would have liked to have accomplished this summer but when I reflect back, it is good that the summer wasn't filled with expensive trips to parks.
Instead it was a hard summer spent at the cottage on the most part learning and adjusting by all. Learning about family and adjusting to being in a family for the two newest. Learning to parent so many at once for me and adjusting to the new normal of trying to support each of the kids with their needs and helping them cope with their baggage.
It was a good summer. It was a simple summer. It went by TOO fast.
Yet at the same time I am going to drag it out longer. We are going away for another couple of weeks. I have yet to decide if this is the last trip, or the beginning of a few using the trailer. It will be our first time using the trailer as a family of 4. We are going to hang out this first trip on the shores of Georgian Bay. I am EXCITED.
T isn't scheduled to start SK until the 12th as he has a gradual start...where just a few of the class goes in on certain days to adjust...not sure.
But as much as he is excited for school, I think that the more time we spend as a family together is better than him going off for 6 hour days. Family is a new thing for him. It has been a hard adjustment having rules and boundaries. Sharing...HUGE struggle for him. I have seen some HUGE growth for T this summer and I am not sure I am ready for him to go off 3 days/week for 6 hours. Last Spring I would have said that it was good for the boys to be separate for a few days per week. But this summer has been great. Their relationship has grown and the constant fighting and bickering has almost disappeared. There is still bouts of jealousy and they don't get along 100% of the time but I don't think that they will ever live 100% in harmony? that is unrealistic.

I am off to tackle more packing....


Tuesday, August 20, 2013

cottage life of fun...

It is hard to believe how quick our summer has flown by. We are very much enjoying our life at the cottage. Swimming, picking berries, playing with friends, riding bikes and evening campfires.
I don't want it to end...
 

 
 
 
 
 


B thinks her life is perfect! Lots of dirt and a brother to play 'this little piggy' while sitting round the campfire eating marshmallows...
 
funny thing is I just cleaned her up from top to bottom less than an hour previous to this
 
 
 


Thursday, August 15, 2013

Our away summer...

We have been away from home more than we have been home this summer. It is my summer off from work. It has not been the best summer weather wise but we are making the most of it. Most of our time is at the cottage. I love living in my little 12x24 building on the campground. Life is simple.
The children are also loving life there. The days are filled with riding bikes, swimming and playing at parks.
T has turned from a child who had no clue how to pedal a bicycle (in which I had to hand over hand move his feet for a few days to get his brain to figure out how to make his feet move in circles to push the pedals) to riding a bicycle fast without training wheels. This is a difficult time for him as he adjusts to learning how to live 'in' a family and 'testing' to see if I will stop loving him. I admit I falter a lot with this child. I understand that he is suffering much loss and is confused over no longer seeing his first family. His whining drives me bonkers as does whining in general. I am working on it but need lots of prayer in this department. He goes out of his way to start fights with CO and then gets upset when CO lashes out in anger at him. So it is a lot of adjusting for all. T gets very jealous if I give someone else a compliment and not him, even if he has just treated me terribly and has done nothing to deserve a compliment. I struggle. He gets jealous of everything. It is hard. He could have 10 of something and then 5 minutes later another child could have their first of the same thing and he gets upset as he didn't get one too at that time. So much of his behaviour around food points to him having known hunger. I ask him. He doesn't remember or he just isn't ready to open up about that part of his life.
Life at the cottage is also easier because there is nothing there that reminds him of his first family. He knows where they live. So when we travel around at home, he is watching for them. It is sad. We actually ran into a member of his first family and it was awful. The man ignored him. How do you explain to a little kid that rejection? Life at the cottage is easier because they have the freedom to go and play and he hovers around me less. I need chunks of time in my day where someone isn't touching me, hovering around me and watching my every move. Life at the cottage is easier because I have a village. A group of people that support me. That will spend some time with T so that I can get a break. It is lovely. When we are at the cottage I hardly hear his wailing. He seems happier there. It may all be in my head because I am happier there.
CO is adjusting to life. He likes knowing that these kids will stay forever. He still misses J a lot. He has regressed in the fact that he is resorting to using actions before words when dealing with confrontation with T. If T won't play with him, he will hit him. There is a lot of hitting going on these days and the harshest punishment that I have discovered is writing lines. I know SO odd. But both boys detest it and they get to write out phrases like 'God made me to love' and 'God created me to be gentle'. Next up will be scripture.
B is coming along. We actually have moments now where she will stop eating. So that is really progress. Her struggles with drinking have disappeared completely.
Right now we have company up. This is our second batch of company in the last couple of weeks. Once this company leaves, we are headed back to our oasis.
I will add photos later.
Night it is WAY past my bedtime and I am going to regret it come 6 am as the boys do not seem to sleep in at home...at the cottage they don't stir before 730! and they are asleep earlier at night. Go Figure?!?!?!?




Wednesday, August 7, 2013

B is TWO!

we decided that the birthday needed Balloons and LOTS of them

the outside deck was very decorated



Nana and Papa came






the neighbours came and joined in the celebration



overall she was well celebrated and it was a fun day

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Dear J

Today I went to the local farmers market. I bought the meat that you love.
This afternoon during quiet time your brother cried for you.
You still hold a large part of our hearts!
love you
~mom